Hi. I’m Lorrie Gray.
I am a certified coach providing personalized support for individuals, couples, and families.
Through a blend of cognitive and somatic approaches, I support clients to be able to take consistent action towards what they care about. I provide a safe and compassionate container to help you get to the root of your struggles, break unhealthy patterns, and develop new skills that allow you to live in alignment with your needs and values.
Coaching Packages
3 session package focused on one key area.
We will:
Get clear on the goal.
Understand what it will cost you to achieve it, and what it’s costing you not to.
Identify the barriers standing in your way.
Isolate a key area where you can take action and build momentum and building accountability around that step.
Deep dive into the roots of the barrier that is most holding you back.
Create a clear plan for how to continue taking action and keep yourself accountable.
Details:
12 sessions
60 minute sessions, either virtual or in-person
“Homework” between sessions to implement what we’re learning
Group sessions can be weekly or every other week.
I require at least one individual session with each person. Option to do ongoing 1:1 to work on individual skills and capacities.
In my sessions there is zero tolerance policy for any type of verbal aggression or arguing.
End Negative Cycles
Most couples struggle with negative communication cycles. The topic may change but the “dance” is basically the same. The more times you do the dance, the more familiar it becomes.
Together, we will systematically break down your unique cycle into it’s parts, deeply understand what’s happening for each person, and learn “new moves” that can be utilized at every point to connect rather than conflict.
(Just seeing it written out on paper is highly clarifying for most couples.)
Practice and Build New Skills
Most people are doing the very best they can with the skills and capacities they have. I help with the rest by identifying where the skill gaps are and helping you build those as individuals and a couple.
Conversation Containment
AFTER we’ve built some skills, I’ll help you talk about the things that matter and navigate change. I’ll be there to hold a sturdy container and be a guide and support for you to say what you mean and be heard.
Coaching vs Therapy
Couples coaching is not the same as couples therapy or couples counseling. Couples therapy is a licensed mental health treatments focused on resolving past trauma, healing emotional injuries, and diagnosing mental health issues. Conversely, couples coaching is a goal-oriented service designed for healthy partners looking to improve communication, build new skills, and strengthen their connection.
If you’re unsure if coaching is a good fit, please DM to schedule a consult
Who it is a good fit for:
Couples who love each other, have 2 feet firmly in the relationship, and BOTH want to work towards bettering the relationship. It can be helpful even if there are no major “issues” but you want to invest in creating healthy patterns for the long run.
When there are struggles, most couples seek help too late. It’s a good time for coaching if you can laugh and enjoy each other, but can also see that things might reach a rough patch down the line if nothing changes.
Readiness Assessment
To be ready for this work, you need:
a basic level of self-regulation. Meaning, if something tough comes up, you can stay present or reset with short break.
a basic level of emotional intelligence evidenced by an ability to identify your emotions.
a willingness to be vulnerable, courageous, and try new things.
a desire to grow and change.
*If these are not present, I would encourage private coaching before beginning couples work.
Who it is NOT a good fit for:
Couples who already have “one foot out” of the relationship and are trying to figure out whether to leave or stay.
Couples who are actively in crisis from a recent betrayal.
Couples who suspect a mental health condition or personality disorder and are seeking a professional opinion or diagnosis.
Couples who are already in a state of contempt for each other.
Pricing:
Varies Slightly depending on how much individual work is being done.
12 week package to recalibrate your life and work towards your most important goal.
Session 1-6: Taking Stock & Recalibrating
Look at how your life is going now to see what’s working and what’s not
Explore (at minimum): wants, needs, values, habits, goals, energy, and mental models. Make some accessible, but significant, changes towards crafting the life you want to be living.
Session 7-12: Execute one key area of change
We will get clear on one place where you are ready to make change. We’ll identify the barriers to reaching your desired outcome and systematically work to reduce or eliminate those barriers by addressing mindset, learning new skill, increasing capacity for discomfort, and taking aligned action.
Make sense of your past so you can create your future.
Approximately 18 sessions, though can vary based on situation.
This is a highly kinesthetic process, ideally done in-person, designed to help individuals with difficult or traumatic pasts externalize and make sense of their lived experience.
Ideal for children and adults.
Attune to your body’s signals and create embodied change.
Sessions begin with a guided somatic practice or visualization to help you slow down and arrive in your body.
During our 8 weeks together you will learn about your autonomic nervous system through a polyvagal lens. You’ll learn somatic stress release techniques as well as gentle ways to influence your nervous system.
You’ll learn about how to sense, feel, and process emotions in your body, not just in your mind.
12 weeks focused on increasing your emotional intelligence.
Enhance your self-awareness, self-management, and communication skills to improve all areas of your life, including your relationship with yourself and others.